One of the most vulnerable times are those of the holidays. There are many who absolutely enjoy the festivities, the comradery, the decorations and the great feasts associated with the holidays.
While, there are others who absolutely dread, the family gatherings, the work place parties, and the sounds of music streaming in every department store.
This does not make either group of people wrong; it’s just that it’s their perception of the season. I have come to recognize the ability to be sensitive to each group of individuals.
Many of us, have had traumatic events which have occurred very close to a significant holiday during this season. There may have been a death, a place of displacement, a relationship, or something so horrific, it has left a hollow space where the joy once lived.
What may sound strange to some, is that everyone is not sitting around the table, laughing, smiling and reminiscing of wonderful memories gone by. In reality there are some which are sitting around the table and the undisclosed or unmentioned issues are in fact very visible. Unspoken, but visible.
The dynamics of relationships are so vital, that it can cause the hours of the holidays to crawl by, slowly, unhurriedly and painfully.
I believe strongly in the power of prayer. I honestly believe healing can take place in a matter which seemed unimaginable. I also believe in the presence of having the ability to walk through the shadows of death with faith and perseverance.
Respecting an individual’s hour, or the space they are residing at this time is so important. Grief has many stages. It is imperative to value the person’s present, honor their past, and speak positively into their future.
Some of us may have our homes decorated in a festive manner, and are looking forward to going, “over the rivers and through the woods to grandmother’s house”, or however you choose to spend your holiday hours. Please be aware and sensitive of those who are not. Take a moment and offer a moment of prayer or meditation for the hearts of those whose holiday hours are not the same.
I pray this hour for the person, who may be sitting alone. I pray for the person who may be sitting in a group; and yet feeling alone. I ask the Comforter be about and within those whose family members have transitioned and there is now an empty chair at the table. I believe the Lord may place upon you peace and comfort. I extend a prayer of Thanksgiving to those who have a quality family unit, and give all praise to our Father! This prayer we believe in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.