The Lady Is A Leader And She’s A Matriarch
As a youngster, I was always in awe of the matriarchs in my family and community. These were women who in their own right were Lady Leaders whether in the home, the church, marketplace or the neighborhood.
A matriarch in the neighborhood was one where if you misbehaved, or acted inappropriately, they had the authority to chastise you. What was most interesting was that after the matriarch of the neighborhood would chastise you, once you returned home, so would the matriarch of your home. It seems as though this is ancient history, yet it was only a few decades ago.
Adoring names would preface birth names with titles of affection such as Ma, Mu-Dear, Mama, and Mother to name a few. It would not be unfamiliar to address a woman of mature stature as mother without the association of being in their bloodline. It was a title of respect, endearment and love.
The month of September I was humbled to receive the 2016-21st Century Matriarch Award, along with some phenomenal women who I admire and respect. As one of the honorees, we were being honored for longevity, consistency and integrity. A matriarch doesn’t give up, through tears, wounds, hurts, and disappointment; you hang in there and believe God on behalf of those to whom we are given charge.
There are numerous women, men, boys and girls whom God has placed in my life who consider me among their spiritual mothers. This is an assignment not to be taken lightly. Unfortunately, what also occurs is when you are considered as someone’s spiritual mother, you also carry the hearts of those to whom you have been assigned.
I can recall my mother and many of the matriarchs of the community, shedding tears on behalf of someone else’s child, or wailing because of the misfortune of a family member of someone from another city, state or town.
I remember vividly the mothers displaying tears of anguish and overwhelming grief as a war casualty was brought home for burial. It didn’t matter whether it was their child or someone else’s; it was a grieving mother’s broken heart.
A mother cares for her own offspring, as well as the seed of others with a love that is unimaginable if you don’t have a maternal spirit. Being a female does not always mean you possess a maternal spirit, as we have witnessed in history, females who do have maternal characteristics, those who do not bond with their children and have no desire to do so.
A matriarch is defined as a woman who is the head of a family or tribe, commonly what we view today as a village. A woman who against all odds remained in position to go into battle on behalf of her children or others. Another definition describes a matriarch as an older woman who is powerful within a family or an organization. (Merriam-Webster)
As a Lady Leader or a matriarch, what we must understand and be confident in, is that all of our children do not look or act the same. All of our seed, do not behave the same, and all of our children do not the same gifts, or talents; however, we love them the same. Where we must use wisdom is having to ability to understand, learn and respect that each heart attachment is an individual. Also as nurturing beings it is imperative that we not carry the guilt, and despondency when those we have carried in our hearts and womb act or react unfavorably in society. Our assignment is to pray, discipline, love and forgive.
Also, never compete with other mother figures in the lives of great men and women, honor the part you have been given in their hearts and in their lives. Each person placed in the lives of someone else is of importance-value your role. I believe this is where the powerful definition of a matriarch comes into play.
You are bestowed the power and confidence to pray without ceasing, the courage to intercede with fervency, and a non-wavering love, which is constant and does not change with the seasons. The Lord knew whom He would place in our lives, and equipped each of us for what each individual would need, a strong matriarch who is…. A Lady Leader
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